Category: Dating and Relationships
Hi everyone,
Recently I've tried to get into the online dating thing with a neash site, but now I'm
regretting the site I chose. The site is gk2gk, a site that is apparently for those with
geeky interests to find like-minded people. I signed up, created what I'd consider a
good profile, at least for that site anyhow, and i waited. I get results, but they're
very poor at best. Needless to say it was disheartening to wake up the next morning
and find messages like "awea;kiaskgajdsf" in my site inbox. I've come to the
conclusion that, while the site has good profiles, the humans are long gone, replaced
with zombie trolling bots.
Support has not gotten back to me on a question, leaving me to believe that the site
has no admin and hopefully the site will expire soon, despite the 2016 copyright
information.
I was thinking about setting my sights on OKCupid next. Has anyone had success
with that site here if anyone's tried it? If not, what sites are accessible and does it
have features where actual humans communicate on a conversational level?
Thanks!
I've recently tried OK cupid, and it is accessible.
I did 3 months, and had limited success.
A friend told me the trick is numbers. If you ask enough people, you will hit pay dirt.
That is how he does it, or did. He's married now, so. Smile.
In the past, I've dated twice from an online site, so it can work, but it takes lots of work it seems for us.
I don't know how things are recently, but I've had some success with it in the past. Sounds like you're right about that site; really the best thing is to go with recommendations from real people who have used a particular venue that they know works. OkCupid is definitely one. EHarmony seems to be another; a friend actually met the woman he's now married to through that one!
I think people sometimes are shocked by the amount of work they actually have to put into the online dating thing. So it's not really worthwhile for everyone. And yeah, as sad as it sounds, the numbers really are a factor. Every so often though you'll get someone who's genuinely interested in your profile and what you have to say, and that might be the beginning of something special.
Never used that site myself, so I can't speak to it from personal experience. I do have a blind friend that met the person she's now in a long-term committed relationship with on OK Cupid, so I'd say it's worked for her. I put it that way because I know they'd get married, but as with many of us with disabilities, there are all kinds of financial circumstances that prevent legal marriage. But I know those two would marry if they could.
I have a friend who met her now fiance on OKC, so it can work!
Anyone who uses facebook, I got a facebook group to help blind singles meet. It is called
Blind and visually impaired singles
so you can look it up and join.
Ugh! *makes a face* Don't wanna date zombie robot thingies. Rofl. Seriously though, Orin, I'm sorry you've had this experience. Whilst I have heard of OKC, I have not used it, so cannot credibly speak to its efficacy.
I've honestly never tried online dating via a dedicated site. Only online dating I've done has been with people I had either already met, or once, met through a friend, then eventually met in person. Were I single now, I don't know if I'd try a website or not. The idea of a long distance relationship is not in the least appealing to me; not anymore. I had some great relationships; all of which helped shape me into the person I am today. But I don't know if I could go through online dating again.
I bet Wayne is absolutely right about the numbers.
Remember, boys, most these sites are still way more populated by men than women. And even as liberated as society thinks it is, boys, you're the asker most of the time. The responder, not the asker, has all the power, popular mythology notwithstanding.
Course if you're a girl and want to be on the other side, like I told my niece: Get out there and ask who you want, and be prepared to take rejection like a man.
Or like a writer.:)
I'm not touchin' that with a 100 foot pole.
have done it , and yes, sometimes it works, other times it don't, since , i
mostly am just after fast and furious on sites like this it works for me.
The numbers is the principle behind things like Tinder OKC and other stuff.
On Tinder, you keep swiping right until you get a yes.
Most sites now have a package you buy so that your profile gets to the top more.
Some allow you to turn the feature on or off.
Say if is Friday night and you want a date, you pay for the feature, and your profile keeps jumping to the top each hour or so depending on what you pay.
You get noticed, so have a better chance of dating.
Sounds like a very binary way to find a potential person. I'm not sure I'd be okay with that. But I've never tried it, so who knows.
I've tried the online dating thing, but it didn't seem to work.
Not one fuckign bit haha. I've hooked up with girls i've met online but nothing
serious. To be honest, I don't really know how to sell myself online. I can talk
my ass off in person and on the phone but when it comes to
messaging/texting; i'm a stooge.
Never used a dating site myself, I've heard about tinder, but never used it and don't want to. As of now, I'm in a relationship with someone I met through a friend of ours, after my last boyfriend broke up with me because of "distance and communication issues." Online dating, especially if you intend to hold out for a long time, requires a lot of work and trust from both parties. Not only that, but it requires a lot of flexibility, something I freely admit is not one of my defining qualities.
A relationship that begins as long-distance or online practically demands that you be a good communicator, and requires a ton of trust. You are less accountable by nature, because your partner isn't right close by.
I've never actually used a dating website before. The ad I posted a couple of weeks back is the closest I've ever gotten.
I've technically done the online dating thing - that is, met someone who I'd found out about online, but ended up in a long-distance relationship for years because of it - and it worked. Or, depending on your perspective, maybe it didn't. I'm single now, after all, and I have baggage that influenced, to one degree or another, the collapse of both of my previous relationships. It's baggage I'm working very hard to minimize, but too little too late, and all that.
Not necessarily.
Using a dating site you can choose to only view profiles of people close.
That can be within 25 miles.
So the person will be close, and you can meet them soon as you like.
They aren't mainly long distance. Most people prefer that 25 mile range actually.
Online dating websites are as good as the people using them. I've had brilliant success, and am quite happily in a long term relationship with the guy that I suspect I'll grow old with. I met him via EHarmony.
What do you mean by as good as the people that use them?
I think if a site is legit anyway, most people join to meet someone.
It doesn't always workout no matter the persons personality, but they are usually all good, or well meaning?
two things
online dating is what you make it. if you are smart about it, things will be just fine. make sure you know the person, don't just trust what they say online. and 2, I have seen that facebook group. its a joke.